Saturday, September 3, 2011
A Lovely Lesson
There was once a lonely girl who longed desperately for love. One day while she was walking in the woods she found two starving song birds. She took them home and put them in a small glided cage. She nurtured them with love and the birds grew strong. Every morning they greeted her with a marvelous song. The girl felt great love for the birds. She wanted their singing to last forever.
One day the girl left the door to the cage open. The larger and stronger of the two birds flew from the cage. The girl watched anxiously as he circled high above her. She was so frightened that he would fly away and she would never see him again that as he flew close, she grasped at him wildly. She caught him in her fist. She clutched him tightly within her hand. Her heart gladdened at her success in capturing him. Suddenly she felt the bird go limp. She opened her hand stared in horror at the dead bird. Her desperate clutching love had killed him.
She noticed the other bird teetering on the edge of the cage. She could feel his great need for freedom. His need to soar into the clear, blue sky. She lifted him from the cage and tossed him softly into the air. The bird circled once, twice, three times.
The girl watched delighted at the bird's enjoyment. Her heart was no longer concerned with her loss. She wanted the bird to be happy. Suddenly the bird flew closer and landed softly on her shoulder. It sang the sweetest melody, she had ever heard.
"The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it -- WINGS!
One day the girl left the door to the cage open. The larger and stronger of the two birds flew from the cage. The girl watched anxiously as he circled high above her. She was so frightened that he would fly away and she would never see him again that as he flew close, she grasped at him wildly. She caught him in her fist. She clutched him tightly within her hand. Her heart gladdened at her success in capturing him. Suddenly she felt the bird go limp. She opened her hand stared in horror at the dead bird. Her desperate clutching love had killed him.
She noticed the other bird teetering on the edge of the cage. She could feel his great need for freedom. His need to soar into the clear, blue sky. She lifted him from the cage and tossed him softly into the air. The bird circled once, twice, three times.
The girl watched delighted at the bird's enjoyment. Her heart was no longer concerned with her loss. She wanted the bird to be happy. Suddenly the bird flew closer and landed softly on her shoulder. It sang the sweetest melody, she had ever heard.
"The fastest way to lose love is to hold on too tight, the best way to keep love is to give it -- WINGS!
A Very Short Luv Story Simlpy Great
A man and a woman who had never met before, but who were both married to other people, found themselves assigned to the same sleeping room on a trans-continental train.
Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room, they were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in the lower.
At 1:00 AM, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying,..... ..... 'Ma'am, I'm sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet to get me a second blanket?
I'm awfully cold.'
'I have a better idea,' she replied 'Just for tonight,.... .. let's pretend that we're married.'
'Wow!....... ......... ...... That's a great idea!', he exclaimed.
'Good,' she replied. ............ .'Then get your own bloody blanket.'
The End
Though initially embarrassed and uneasy over sharing a room, they were both very tired and fell asleep quickly, he in the upper berth and she in the lower.
At 1:00 AM, the man leaned down and gently woke the woman saying,..... ..... 'Ma'am, I'm sorry to bother you, but would you be willing to reach into the closet to get me a second blanket?
I'm awfully cold.'
'I have a better idea,' she replied 'Just for tonight,.... .. let's pretend that we're married.'
'Wow!....... ......... ...... That's a great idea!', he exclaimed.
'Good,' she replied. ............ .'Then get your own bloody blanket.'
The End
A Woman Should Have
How to live alone... Even if she doesn't like it...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
One friend who always makes her laugh...
And one who lets her cry..
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.. .
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW
That she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
Whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally.. .
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go... Be it to her best friend's kitchen table... Or a charming inn in the woods... When her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day... A month...and a year...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
Enough money within her control to move out and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to...
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A youth she's content to leave behind....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A past juicy enough that she's looking forward to retelling it in her old age....
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
One friend who always makes her laugh...
And one who lets her cry..
A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ...
A feeling of control over her destiny...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to fall in love without losing herself..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
How to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.. .
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW
That she can't change the length of her calves, the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
That her childhood may not have been perfect...but its over...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she would and wouldn't do for love or more...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
Whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she shouldn't take it personally.. .
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
Where to go... Be it to her best friend's kitchen table... Or a charming inn in the woods... When her soul needs soothing...
EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
What she can and can't accomplish in a day... A month...and a year...
10 Postive And Negative : Changing Your Name For Marriage
Many of us spent our childhood years doodling our names with the "Mrs." pronoun into the margins of our diaries. We experimented with our crushes' names, imagined ourselves with famous names (Mrs. DiCaprio, anybody?), or dreamed up names that were completely random altogether.
Now that we're a little more seasoned and—hopefully—more in tune with our sense of individuality, we figure that changing our last name for marriage isn't newlywed protocol. Taking a man's last name might be the default in this country, but there are plenty of reasons to reconsider or heck, to be traditional. Here's what we cooked up, but do chime in with your own thoughts and experiences.
Reasons to take his last name:
You dislike your maiden name. Whew, you can be rid of the unpronounceable, clunky, difficult-to-spell moniker at last! You might also consider adopting your husband's surname if you want to distance yourself from a reputation associated with your family name.
It's a change. Change, like marriage, can be the good kind of scary. Taking on his surname not only signifies the new direction you've taken, but it also represents the new identity you'll have as a wife, and perhaps, a mother. Of course, being married doesn't make you any less of an individual or any less "you," but there is nothing wrong with choosing to identify yourself as part of a unit. 5 Guys You Should Have Fun With Before Marriage
It bands the family together. Speaking of units, a shared last name can help create a sense of family identity if you decide to have children. At the risk of being cheesy, haven't you ever wanted to yell, "We Joneses stick together!" during a family pep talk? At the very least, you'll have an easier time deciding on the children's surnames.
Monogramming is easier. Sure, Mr. and Mrs. towels aren't such a big deal in the long run, but if you've ever fantasized about having a doormat imprinted with your new family surname, you might want to consider taking a married name.
People will already address you as Mrs. [Insert Name]. According to a study conducted in 2009, 77 percent of Americans said that brides should take their husbands' name. Since the vast majority of people you meet will call you a Mrs. Husband's Last Name by habit, it may be less of a hassle to change your name than it is to correct them every time.
Reasons not to take his last name:
You dislike his last name. Remember how Drew Barrymore's character in The Wedding Singer was almost called Julia Gulia? Yuck! A good man will excuse you from adopting his surname if it either sounds awkward with your first name, or if it's just an awkward surname
You love your maiden name. On that note, maybe your last name sounds poetic, exotic, or is alliterative with your first name. Plus, plenty of women keep their maiden name because of its sentimental value: it indicates their ethnicity, it has an epic story behind it, or it's associated with a famous family member.
You don't want to modify your professional identity. If you're a bestselling author, an expert in your field, or have a business named after you, it might be easier career-wise to just stick with your maiden name, at least in the workplace. Think about all those business cards you'll save yourself from reprinting!
You're the last descendant of a long family line. If it would break your father's heart to see the line end with you, you might want to consider keeping your name—or, if your guy has an open mind, coaxing him into taking yours! If anything, you can use your maiden name as
your children's middle names.
You dislike the hassle of paperwork. People do it everyday, but if you would rather not deal with changing the name associated with your Social Security, driver's license, and credit cards, among other things, you can save yourself a lot of time by just sticking with your maiden name
Now that we're a little more seasoned and—hopefully—more in tune with our sense of individuality, we figure that changing our last name for marriage isn't newlywed protocol. Taking a man's last name might be the default in this country, but there are plenty of reasons to reconsider or heck, to be traditional. Here's what we cooked up, but do chime in with your own thoughts and experiences.
Reasons to take his last name:
You dislike your maiden name. Whew, you can be rid of the unpronounceable, clunky, difficult-to-spell moniker at last! You might also consider adopting your husband's surname if you want to distance yourself from a reputation associated with your family name.
It's a change. Change, like marriage, can be the good kind of scary. Taking on his surname not only signifies the new direction you've taken, but it also represents the new identity you'll have as a wife, and perhaps, a mother. Of course, being married doesn't make you any less of an individual or any less "you," but there is nothing wrong with choosing to identify yourself as part of a unit. 5 Guys You Should Have Fun With Before Marriage
It bands the family together. Speaking of units, a shared last name can help create a sense of family identity if you decide to have children. At the risk of being cheesy, haven't you ever wanted to yell, "We Joneses stick together!" during a family pep talk? At the very least, you'll have an easier time deciding on the children's surnames.
Monogramming is easier. Sure, Mr. and Mrs. towels aren't such a big deal in the long run, but if you've ever fantasized about having a doormat imprinted with your new family surname, you might want to consider taking a married name.
People will already address you as Mrs. [Insert Name]. According to a study conducted in 2009, 77 percent of Americans said that brides should take their husbands' name. Since the vast majority of people you meet will call you a Mrs. Husband's Last Name by habit, it may be less of a hassle to change your name than it is to correct them every time.
Reasons not to take his last name:
You dislike his last name. Remember how Drew Barrymore's character in The Wedding Singer was almost called Julia Gulia? Yuck! A good man will excuse you from adopting his surname if it either sounds awkward with your first name, or if it's just an awkward surname
You love your maiden name. On that note, maybe your last name sounds poetic, exotic, or is alliterative with your first name. Plus, plenty of women keep their maiden name because of its sentimental value: it indicates their ethnicity, it has an epic story behind it, or it's associated with a famous family member.
You don't want to modify your professional identity. If you're a bestselling author, an expert in your field, or have a business named after you, it might be easier career-wise to just stick with your maiden name, at least in the workplace. Think about all those business cards you'll save yourself from reprinting!
You're the last descendant of a long family line. If it would break your father's heart to see the line end with you, you might want to consider keeping your name—or, if your guy has an open mind, coaxing him into taking yours! If anything, you can use your maiden name as
your children's middle names.
You dislike the hassle of paperwork. People do it everyday, but if you would rather not deal with changing the name associated with your Social Security, driver's license, and credit cards, among other things, you can save yourself a lot of time by just sticking with your maiden name
5 Ways To Tell Him What You Need
You've had a crush on him forever. Finally, he calls you to go out for a spur of the moment dinner and drinks! This is perfect. You're on cloud nine! After a few dates, however, you begin to notice an annoying pattern. He doesn't makes plans in advance! Spontaneity is great, but come on! You have a a job, fabulous friends and a booming social life. You don't have time to sit and wait by the phone for him to call… and why should you have to? A planned date is necessary.
Men aren't mind readers. Therefore, you can't expect him to meet your standards and expectations unless you let him know what your standards are. Boyfriend training consists of a series of subtle hints, jokes and compliments that coax him into changing his undesirable behavior (like texting you for a spur of the moment date) into a desirable behavior (calling you a day or two in advance for a planned date). The key here is to remember that training a man is NOT the same thing as changing him. It is simply a way of making your expectations for this relationship understood and giving him the choice whether or not to meet your expectations and continue this relationship. Here is how to do it:
1.Positive Reinforcement!
Men are a lot like small children. They respond well to compliments. On the occasion that he actually does call you in advance, compliment him. Tell him you love it when a man takes that kind of initiative. Show him it makes you happy by rewarding him with extra affection, smiles and thank yous. Once he realizes that it gets your motor running, he will be sure to keep it up.
2.Gentle Jokes
Men relate to humor. So, next time he calls you for a spur of the moment hangout, rather than a planned date, make a joke about it. Be funny, but let him know that you are serious too. This is a gentle push in the right direction
3.Tell Him Flat Out What You Need
This one is the MOST IMPORTANT step. NEVER be afraid to flat out tell him what you like and don't like. It's OK to ask someone to treat you in a way that makes you feel cared for and important. Of course, in a new relationship, it's usually a good idea to approach this with a bit of delicacy. But, make sure you approach it nonetheless. If the problem is that he sometimes texts you for a date and you expect a phone call, you could simply respond via text "I only go out with boys that call me." This is a playful, yet honest way to let him know what it takes to date you. Believe me, if he likes you he will pick up the phone! And if he doesn't respond well, or makes you feel like you are too demanding, dump him. You deserve to be treated like a lady.
4.Make Him Think It's HIS Idea
The key to training is SUBTLETY. Do it right, and he will think that his newfound habit of opening doors for you is HIS idea. He will automatically associate his recent habit of chivalry with affection for you. Here's an example of how it works: Position yourself so that he approaches the door before you. Since he gets there first, he will open the door for you to walk through. At that point, say "Awww, I LOVE it when a man opens doors for women! Your mama raised you right. You are a keeper!" This subtle positioning followed by a compliment sealed the deal. Now, he will open doors for you every time!
5.NEVER Humiliate Or Put Him Down!
There is nothing that pisses me off more than a woman who belittles a man and makes him feel like he is incapable of pleasing her or taking care of her. Women who do this are not trying to "train" him (helping him understand her expectations), they are trying to control him. When a woman makes her boyfriend/husband feel incapable and belittled, she makes him feel like less of a man. This will no doubt breed resentment and start a power struggle. Control creates an unhealthy and unbalanced relationship. It is a blaring sign of low self-esteem. Therefore, NEVER humiliate or put down a man as a way of "training" him. You can get your point across in a loving and respectful way.
Men aren't mind readers. Therefore, you can't expect him to meet your standards and expectations unless you let him know what your standards are. Boyfriend training consists of a series of subtle hints, jokes and compliments that coax him into changing his undesirable behavior (like texting you for a spur of the moment date) into a desirable behavior (calling you a day or two in advance for a planned date). The key here is to remember that training a man is NOT the same thing as changing him. It is simply a way of making your expectations for this relationship understood and giving him the choice whether or not to meet your expectations and continue this relationship. Here is how to do it:
1.Positive Reinforcement!
Men are a lot like small children. They respond well to compliments. On the occasion that he actually does call you in advance, compliment him. Tell him you love it when a man takes that kind of initiative. Show him it makes you happy by rewarding him with extra affection, smiles and thank yous. Once he realizes that it gets your motor running, he will be sure to keep it up.
2.Gentle Jokes
Men relate to humor. So, next time he calls you for a spur of the moment hangout, rather than a planned date, make a joke about it. Be funny, but let him know that you are serious too. This is a gentle push in the right direction
3.Tell Him Flat Out What You Need
This one is the MOST IMPORTANT step. NEVER be afraid to flat out tell him what you like and don't like. It's OK to ask someone to treat you in a way that makes you feel cared for and important. Of course, in a new relationship, it's usually a good idea to approach this with a bit of delicacy. But, make sure you approach it nonetheless. If the problem is that he sometimes texts you for a date and you expect a phone call, you could simply respond via text "I only go out with boys that call me." This is a playful, yet honest way to let him know what it takes to date you. Believe me, if he likes you he will pick up the phone! And if he doesn't respond well, or makes you feel like you are too demanding, dump him. You deserve to be treated like a lady.
4.Make Him Think It's HIS Idea
The key to training is SUBTLETY. Do it right, and he will think that his newfound habit of opening doors for you is HIS idea. He will automatically associate his recent habit of chivalry with affection for you. Here's an example of how it works: Position yourself so that he approaches the door before you. Since he gets there first, he will open the door for you to walk through. At that point, say "Awww, I LOVE it when a man opens doors for women! Your mama raised you right. You are a keeper!" This subtle positioning followed by a compliment sealed the deal. Now, he will open doors for you every time!
5.NEVER Humiliate Or Put Him Down!
There is nothing that pisses me off more than a woman who belittles a man and makes him feel like he is incapable of pleasing her or taking care of her. Women who do this are not trying to "train" him (helping him understand her expectations), they are trying to control him. When a woman makes her boyfriend/husband feel incapable and belittled, she makes him feel like less of a man. This will no doubt breed resentment and start a power struggle. Control creates an unhealthy and unbalanced relationship. It is a blaring sign of low self-esteem. Therefore, NEVER humiliate or put down a man as a way of "training" him. You can get your point across in a loving and respectful way.
8 Lies of Mother
This story begins when I was a child: I was born poor. Often we hadn't enough to eat. Whenever we had some food, Mother often gave me her portion of rice. While she was transferring her rice into my bowl, she would say "Eat this rice, son! I'm not hungry."
This was Mother's First Lie.
As I grew, Mother gave up her spare time to fish in a river near our house; she hoped that from the fish she caught, she could give me a little bit more nutritious food for my growth. Once she had caught just two fish, she would make fish soup. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat what was still left on the bone of the fish I had eaten; My heart was touched when I saw it. Once I gave the other fish to her on my chopstick but she immediately refused it and said, "Eat this fish, son! I don't really like fish."
This was Mother's Second Lie.
Then, in order to fund my education, Mother went to a Match Factory to bring home some used matchboxes which she filled with fresh matchsticks. . This helped her get some money to cover our needs. One wintry night I awoke to find Mother filling the matchboxes by candlelight. So I said, "Mother, go to sleep; it's late: you can continue working tomorrow morning." Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep, son! I'm not tired."
This was Mother's Third Lie
When I had to sit my Final Examination, Mother accompanied me.. After dawn, Mother waited for me for hours in the heat of the sun. When the bell rang, I ran to meet her.. Mother embraced me and poured me a glass of tea that she had prepared in a thermos. The tea was not as strong as my Mother's love, Seeing Mother covered with perspiration; I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too. Mother said "Drink, son! I'm not thirsty!".
This was Mother's Fourth Lie.
After Father's death, Mother had to play the role of a single parent. She held on to her former job; she had to fund our needs alone. Our family's life was more complicated. We suffered from starvation. Seeing our family's condition worsening, my kind Uncle who lived near my house came to help us solve our problems big and small.
Our other neighbours saw that we were poverty stricken so they often advised my mother to marry again. But Mother refused to remarry saying "I don't need love."
This was Mother's Fifth Lie.
After I had finished my studies and gotten a job, it was time for my old Mother to retire but she carried on going to the market every morning just to sell a few vegetables. I kept sending her money but she was steadfast and even sent the money back to me. She said, "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.
I continued my part-time studies for my Master's Degree. Funded by the American Corporation for which I worked, I succeeded in my studies. With a big jump in my salary, I decided to bring Mother to enjoy life in America but Mother didn't want to bother her son; she said to me "I'm not used to high living."
That was Mother's Seventh Lie
In her dotage, Mother was attacked by cancer and had to be hospitalized. Now living far across the ocean, I went home to visit Mother who was bedridden after an operation. Mother tried to smile but I was heartbroken because she was so thin and feeble but Mother said, "Don't cry, son! I'm not in pain."
That was Mother's Eighth Lie.
Telling me this, her eighth lie, she died.
YES, MOTHER WAS AN ANGEL!
M - O - T - H - E - R
"M" is for the Million things she gave me,
"O" means Only that she's growing old,
"T" is for the Tears she shed to save me,
"H" is for her Heart of gold,
"E" is for her Eyes with love-light shining in them,
"R" means Right, and right she'll always be,
Put them all together, they spell "MOTHER"
a word that means the world to me.
For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom's presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. For those who aren't so blessed, this is even more beautiful.
This was Mother's First Lie.
As I grew, Mother gave up her spare time to fish in a river near our house; she hoped that from the fish she caught, she could give me a little bit more nutritious food for my growth. Once she had caught just two fish, she would make fish soup. While I was eating the soup, mother would sit beside me and eat what was still left on the bone of the fish I had eaten; My heart was touched when I saw it. Once I gave the other fish to her on my chopstick but she immediately refused it and said, "Eat this fish, son! I don't really like fish."
This was Mother's Second Lie.
Then, in order to fund my education, Mother went to a Match Factory to bring home some used matchboxes which she filled with fresh matchsticks. . This helped her get some money to cover our needs. One wintry night I awoke to find Mother filling the matchboxes by candlelight. So I said, "Mother, go to sleep; it's late: you can continue working tomorrow morning." Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep, son! I'm not tired."
This was Mother's Third Lie
When I had to sit my Final Examination, Mother accompanied me.. After dawn, Mother waited for me for hours in the heat of the sun. When the bell rang, I ran to meet her.. Mother embraced me and poured me a glass of tea that she had prepared in a thermos. The tea was not as strong as my Mother's love, Seeing Mother covered with perspiration; I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too. Mother said "Drink, son! I'm not thirsty!".
This was Mother's Fourth Lie.
After Father's death, Mother had to play the role of a single parent. She held on to her former job; she had to fund our needs alone. Our family's life was more complicated. We suffered from starvation. Seeing our family's condition worsening, my kind Uncle who lived near my house came to help us solve our problems big and small.
Our other neighbours saw that we were poverty stricken so they often advised my mother to marry again. But Mother refused to remarry saying "I don't need love."
This was Mother's Fifth Lie.
After I had finished my studies and gotten a job, it was time for my old Mother to retire but she carried on going to the market every morning just to sell a few vegetables. I kept sending her money but she was steadfast and even sent the money back to me. She said, "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.
I continued my part-time studies for my Master's Degree. Funded by the American Corporation for which I worked, I succeeded in my studies. With a big jump in my salary, I decided to bring Mother to enjoy life in America but Mother didn't want to bother her son; she said to me "I'm not used to high living."
That was Mother's Seventh Lie
In her dotage, Mother was attacked by cancer and had to be hospitalized. Now living far across the ocean, I went home to visit Mother who was bedridden after an operation. Mother tried to smile but I was heartbroken because she was so thin and feeble but Mother said, "Don't cry, son! I'm not in pain."
That was Mother's Eighth Lie.
Telling me this, her eighth lie, she died.
YES, MOTHER WAS AN ANGEL!
M - O - T - H - E - R
"M" is for the Million things she gave me,
"O" means Only that she's growing old,
"T" is for the Tears she shed to save me,
"H" is for her Heart of gold,
"E" is for her Eyes with love-light shining in them,
"R" means Right, and right she'll always be,
Put them all together, they spell "MOTHER"
a word that means the world to me.
For those of you who are lucky to be still blessed with your Mom's presence on Earth, this story is beautiful. For those who aren't so blessed, this is even more beautiful.
10 Beauty Tips
1. Brushing Up :
Make body brushing a part of your daily routine. Scrubbing out dirt and grime is the least of its advantages. Body brushing tones and stimulates skin, helping with the natural drainage of the lymph glands. It also helps combat cellulite. When brushing, work towards the heart, up from your legs and thighs, and down from your neck. Oh, and remember, skin should be dry while body-brushing, so make sure you have a soft brush - you don't want abrasions that are hard to explain!
2. Banana Rama :
For a great homemade face softener, try this: mash a banana and apply it to your face. Leave on for ten minutes and wash off with lukewarm water. Your face feels like satin. Plus, it puts those over ripe gooey bananas to good use!
3. Pearly White :
Ever looked in the mirror and felt that your teeth were going from white to off-white to yellow? Take a hard look at your habits. The biggest culprits in the teeth-yellowing process are tobacco, coffee, tea and red wine. So if you must indulge, brush your teeth afterwards whenever possible, or at least rinse with water.
4. Shades Of Summer :
A snazzy pair of sunglasses not only looks great, but also delays the onset of crow's feet (wrinkles on the sides of the eyes) which are accelerated by squinting in the sun.
5. Peaches And Cream :
Great looks come with great skin, so get crackin' on that epidermis. Dirt and oil blocks pores causing blackheads and pimples, while dirt, grime and pollutants are drawn to oily skin like moths to a flame. So wash your face as often as possible, and cleanse at least twice a day.
6. Instant Glow :
So you've just reached home after a nerve-wrecking day at the office and have to leave immediately for a dinner party thrown by your husband's most revered business client. How to get that glow in a flash? You could cheat and layer on the blusher, but a better option would be to try this: simply mix equal amounts of lemon and honey, apply it to your face and wash off after ten minutes.
7. Luscious Locks :
Nothing improves the quality of your hair better than getting a regular oil massage. Get it done at home once a week if you have a husband or mother-in-law that dotes on you, or visit your neighbourhood parlour.
8. All Steamed Up :
After applying oil wrap your hair in a steaming towel for twenty minutes. Give your hair this steaming treatment at least once a month. Steaming hair after applying oil helps it soak deeper into the follicles.
9. Fun In The Sun :
The sun's warmth may make you feel good but it's ultraviolet rays over time cause at best, dry wrinkly skin and at worst, skin cancer. Don't step out without loading on that sunscreen. In the summers, avoid stepping out between 12:00 to 2:00 when the sun is at its peak.
10. Water, Water Everywhere :
You can never drink too much water. It flushes out your toxins and is great for the skin, liver and just about every conceivable body organ! It keeps you cool and feeling fresh, reduces dehydration and rejuvenates your body cells. Drink at least ten glasses of water in a day. Bottoms up
Make body brushing a part of your daily routine. Scrubbing out dirt and grime is the least of its advantages. Body brushing tones and stimulates skin, helping with the natural drainage of the lymph glands. It also helps combat cellulite. When brushing, work towards the heart, up from your legs and thighs, and down from your neck. Oh, and remember, skin should be dry while body-brushing, so make sure you have a soft brush - you don't want abrasions that are hard to explain!
2. Banana Rama :
For a great homemade face softener, try this: mash a banana and apply it to your face. Leave on for ten minutes and wash off with lukewarm water. Your face feels like satin. Plus, it puts those over ripe gooey bananas to good use!
3. Pearly White :
Ever looked in the mirror and felt that your teeth were going from white to off-white to yellow? Take a hard look at your habits. The biggest culprits in the teeth-yellowing process are tobacco, coffee, tea and red wine. So if you must indulge, brush your teeth afterwards whenever possible, or at least rinse with water.
4. Shades Of Summer :
A snazzy pair of sunglasses not only looks great, but also delays the onset of crow's feet (wrinkles on the sides of the eyes) which are accelerated by squinting in the sun.
5. Peaches And Cream :
Great looks come with great skin, so get crackin' on that epidermis. Dirt and oil blocks pores causing blackheads and pimples, while dirt, grime and pollutants are drawn to oily skin like moths to a flame. So wash your face as often as possible, and cleanse at least twice a day.
6. Instant Glow :
So you've just reached home after a nerve-wrecking day at the office and have to leave immediately for a dinner party thrown by your husband's most revered business client. How to get that glow in a flash? You could cheat and layer on the blusher, but a better option would be to try this: simply mix equal amounts of lemon and honey, apply it to your face and wash off after ten minutes.
7. Luscious Locks :
Nothing improves the quality of your hair better than getting a regular oil massage. Get it done at home once a week if you have a husband or mother-in-law that dotes on you, or visit your neighbourhood parlour.
8. All Steamed Up :
After applying oil wrap your hair in a steaming towel for twenty minutes. Give your hair this steaming treatment at least once a month. Steaming hair after applying oil helps it soak deeper into the follicles.
9. Fun In The Sun :
The sun's warmth may make you feel good but it's ultraviolet rays over time cause at best, dry wrinkly skin and at worst, skin cancer. Don't step out without loading on that sunscreen. In the summers, avoid stepping out between 12:00 to 2:00 when the sun is at its peak.
10. Water, Water Everywhere :
You can never drink too much water. It flushes out your toxins and is great for the skin, liver and just about every conceivable body organ! It keeps you cool and feeling fresh, reduces dehydration and rejuvenates your body cells. Drink at least ten glasses of water in a day. Bottoms up
10 Things You Just Can’t Change About Men
A relationship can get pretty confusing especially since men and women are so drastically different. Want to make your relationship work? Here are some facts about men that you should know as a woman!
1. Didn’t I say ‘I love you’ just yesterday?
While women insist on saying those three little words far too often, it somehow isn’t that important to most men. Accept it. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less! Watch his actions. That should communicate louder than his words.
2. You look great honey!
If you don’t want a standard response, don’t ask a standard question! It throws men off as there’s no right answer. You’re going to disbelieve him anyway. So save him the panic attack and ask your kids instead.
3. I wasn’t staring at her!
Boys will be boys. You can’t complain if your guy notices your pretty office receptionist. If she’s pretty, he will notice! That’s his primal tendency. You can’t change what comes naturally to him and there’s no need to be overly jealous about it.
4. You’re not ready? It’s late!
Well, he did say the party starts at 7. He doesn’t understand about being fashionably late. His idea of entertainment is not waiting in the car while you find that missing shoe. Try and respect his time. After all you could be spending more time together.
5. That’s a nice dress
Men love it when you take their advice on fashion. Why? They feel good that you’re dressing up for them and not to impress other women… or men! If he likes you in lilac, then by all means buy lilac. He will appreciate the thought.
6. Are you bored?
He may be talking about F1 or his new tool kit, but look interested. It’s the least you can do for all the hours that you’ve tortured him with beauty talk and gossip on the neighbours!
7. You’re simply stunning!
Wouldn’t you want to hear those words from your man? It always feels great when your man compliments you. Then, don’t let yourself go! He wants to be the luckiest guy in the room when you both walk in as a couple.
8. I’m not thinking anything…
Don’t bombard your man with questions just to find out how he’s feeling. He may not know what’s going on inside him. Sometimes, giving him a little space will help him sort things out peacefully.
9. Yes, I’m wearing this!
Don’t ask your man ‘Will you be wearing that?’ just after he has dressed up. Isn’t it obvious? If you want him to dress better, then choose his clothes before he puts them on. It will certainly save you both a lot of time!
10. Let me just fix it!
Men do not appreciate the ‘guessing game’. If you’re got a problem, tell him. He will want to find a solution that’s quick and fuss-free.
Men are wonderful creations if you know the inside secrets of how to deal with them on a daily basis. Hopefully these tips will cement your relationship for a long future!
1. Didn’t I say ‘I love you’ just yesterday?
While women insist on saying those three little words far too often, it somehow isn’t that important to most men. Accept it. It doesn’t mean he loves you any less! Watch his actions. That should communicate louder than his words.
2. You look great honey!
If you don’t want a standard response, don’t ask a standard question! It throws men off as there’s no right answer. You’re going to disbelieve him anyway. So save him the panic attack and ask your kids instead.
3. I wasn’t staring at her!
Boys will be boys. You can’t complain if your guy notices your pretty office receptionist. If she’s pretty, he will notice! That’s his primal tendency. You can’t change what comes naturally to him and there’s no need to be overly jealous about it.
4. You’re not ready? It’s late!
Well, he did say the party starts at 7. He doesn’t understand about being fashionably late. His idea of entertainment is not waiting in the car while you find that missing shoe. Try and respect his time. After all you could be spending more time together.
5. That’s a nice dress
Men love it when you take their advice on fashion. Why? They feel good that you’re dressing up for them and not to impress other women… or men! If he likes you in lilac, then by all means buy lilac. He will appreciate the thought.
6. Are you bored?
He may be talking about F1 or his new tool kit, but look interested. It’s the least you can do for all the hours that you’ve tortured him with beauty talk and gossip on the neighbours!
7. You’re simply stunning!
Wouldn’t you want to hear those words from your man? It always feels great when your man compliments you. Then, don’t let yourself go! He wants to be the luckiest guy in the room when you both walk in as a couple.
8. I’m not thinking anything…
Don’t bombard your man with questions just to find out how he’s feeling. He may not know what’s going on inside him. Sometimes, giving him a little space will help him sort things out peacefully.
9. Yes, I’m wearing this!
Don’t ask your man ‘Will you be wearing that?’ just after he has dressed up. Isn’t it obvious? If you want him to dress better, then choose his clothes before he puts them on. It will certainly save you both a lot of time!
10. Let me just fix it!
Men do not appreciate the ‘guessing game’. If you’re got a problem, tell him. He will want to find a solution that’s quick and fuss-free.
Men are wonderful creations if you know the inside secrets of how to deal with them on a daily basis. Hopefully these tips will cement your relationship for a long future!
7 Tips on How to Walk in High Heels
1. Start with Good Posture
As with any project you need to start with a good foundation. One of the keys to walking in high heels is good, strong, solid posture. Make sure your body is relaxed and your arms are loose and at your sides since they will help you balance as you walk. You should be standing up straight, your head high and your feet facing forward
2. Get Good well fitting Shoes
I don’t care how cute those shoes look on you, if they don’t fit right you are going to look more like Bambi on ice rather than Beyonce at the Grammy’s. Start off slow with a moderately sized heel (1-2 inches) and then as you grow accustomed to them, up the size. Try to break your shoes in BEFORE you have to wear them, let’s say on a date, that way they are better fitted to your feet and you don’t wind up with blisters at the end of your night. Try to shop for shoes in the evening when your feet at at their biggest from being on them all day. Remember that you can always make your shoes smaller, but you can’t EVER make your feet smaller
3. Make sure they have all the fixings
Your shoes a bit loose? Purchase padding for the inside heel and pad of your shoe, that will help them fit better. Soles a bit slippery? You can buy sole grippers at your local shoe store that will add the perfect amount of traction right where you need it. You should also consider buying gel insoles for a little extra boost to your heels comfort leve
4. Slow and Steady wins the race
Relax your body. Take one step forward, leading with your hips, placing the ball of your foot down first, following through with the rest of your foot, heel to toe, distributing your weight as evenly as possible. Try to keep your body fluid and your stride small, making sure you are picking up your feet, not just shuffling them forward. Make sure that your feet are facing forward, legs are close together, and your knees aren’t bending any further than they normally would. As you grow accustomed to wearing heels, your body will naturally up your stride or speed. Let your arms swing naturally at your sides for added balance
5. Beware of the road ahead
Even experienced heel walkers can have some major difficulties on various surfaces, so try to be aware of the surface you are walking on, and adjust your steps accordingly. Super slippery surface? Tiled flooring or boardwalks? Your heel could get stuck inbetween the boards so make sure that your stepping on the flat solid parts of the board. Cobblestones? Use extra caution as the stones are usually not big enough to put your entire foot on at once, and tend to be irregularly shaped.
6. Ask your local cobbler for help
your local shoe cobbler. Rumour has it that Marilyn Monroe would have one of the heels of each of her shoes shaved down slightly so that no matter how she stood she had a sexy little curve to her hips. There is no reason you can’t do the same. Better yet, ask your local cobbler to customize your shoes for just the right fit
7. Fake It
If all else fails, smile. One of the biggest reasons women look so pretty walking in heels is the confidence that seems to be oozing from every pore. You can fake this confidence for as long as you need to with simple little tricks. Pretend that you are the most beautiful woman in the world, and that everyone is dying to be near you. Try to envision yourself as the epitome of beauty and class, and that your walk is a testament to that fact.
As with any project you need to start with a good foundation. One of the keys to walking in high heels is good, strong, solid posture. Make sure your body is relaxed and your arms are loose and at your sides since they will help you balance as you walk. You should be standing up straight, your head high and your feet facing forward
2. Get Good well fitting Shoes
I don’t care how cute those shoes look on you, if they don’t fit right you are going to look more like Bambi on ice rather than Beyonce at the Grammy’s. Start off slow with a moderately sized heel (1-2 inches) and then as you grow accustomed to them, up the size. Try to break your shoes in BEFORE you have to wear them, let’s say on a date, that way they are better fitted to your feet and you don’t wind up with blisters at the end of your night. Try to shop for shoes in the evening when your feet at at their biggest from being on them all day. Remember that you can always make your shoes smaller, but you can’t EVER make your feet smaller
3. Make sure they have all the fixings
Your shoes a bit loose? Purchase padding for the inside heel and pad of your shoe, that will help them fit better. Soles a bit slippery? You can buy sole grippers at your local shoe store that will add the perfect amount of traction right where you need it. You should also consider buying gel insoles for a little extra boost to your heels comfort leve
4. Slow and Steady wins the race
Relax your body. Take one step forward, leading with your hips, placing the ball of your foot down first, following through with the rest of your foot, heel to toe, distributing your weight as evenly as possible. Try to keep your body fluid and your stride small, making sure you are picking up your feet, not just shuffling them forward. Make sure that your feet are facing forward, legs are close together, and your knees aren’t bending any further than they normally would. As you grow accustomed to wearing heels, your body will naturally up your stride or speed. Let your arms swing naturally at your sides for added balance
5. Beware of the road ahead
Even experienced heel walkers can have some major difficulties on various surfaces, so try to be aware of the surface you are walking on, and adjust your steps accordingly. Super slippery surface? Tiled flooring or boardwalks? Your heel could get stuck inbetween the boards so make sure that your stepping on the flat solid parts of the board. Cobblestones? Use extra caution as the stones are usually not big enough to put your entire foot on at once, and tend to be irregularly shaped.
6. Ask your local cobbler for help
your local shoe cobbler. Rumour has it that Marilyn Monroe would have one of the heels of each of her shoes shaved down slightly so that no matter how she stood she had a sexy little curve to her hips. There is no reason you can’t do the same. Better yet, ask your local cobbler to customize your shoes for just the right fit
7. Fake It
If all else fails, smile. One of the biggest reasons women look so pretty walking in heels is the confidence that seems to be oozing from every pore. You can fake this confidence for as long as you need to with simple little tricks. Pretend that you are the most beautiful woman in the world, and that everyone is dying to be near you. Try to envision yourself as the epitome of beauty and class, and that your walk is a testament to that fact.
42 Facts about Guys
42 Facts about Guys really very true......
Girls r surely going to read it
1. Guys like their gadgets & bikes more than a girl.Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3.When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
4. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about .
5. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
6. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
7. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
8. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
9. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow". .... so true.
10. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
11. Guys love their moms.
12. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
13. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
14. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
15. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
16. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
17. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.
18. Guys are very open about themselves.
(Imp.)19. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
20. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
21. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
22. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice ... very true.
23. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
24. Guys keep secrets that girls tell them.
25. Guys think too much.
26. Guys fantasies are unlimited.
27. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does! ... very true.
28. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
29. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
30. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
31. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
32. Guys hate girls who overreact.
33. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.
Doesn't this all make sense?
.::FEW MORE POINTS HAS ADDED TO THE LIST .... CHECK THEM::.
34.Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
35.Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like
36.Guys hate gays!
37.A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
38.Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.
39.guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
.::THIS IS FOR GIRLS::.
40.Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise
41.Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
42.A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
Girls r surely going to read it
1. Guys like their gadgets & bikes more than a girl.Guys don't actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3.When a guy says he doesn't understand you, it simply means you're not thinking the way he is.
4. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about .
5. When a guy really likes you, he'll disregard all your bad characteristics.
6. Guys go crazy over a girl's smile.
7. Guys will do anything just to get the girl's attention.
8. When you touch a guy's heart, there's no turning back.
9. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow". .... so true.
10. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
11. Guys love their moms.
12. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
13. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn't mean that the guy likes her.
14. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
15. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
16. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
17. Like Eve, girls are guys' weaknesses.
18. Guys are very open about themselves.
(Imp.)19. It's good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don't let him wait that long.
20. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
21. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they're not that much pretty.
22. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don't need to give advice ... very true.
23. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you.
24. Guys keep secrets that girls tell them.
25. Guys think too much.
26. Guys fantasies are unlimited.
27. Girls' height doesn't really matter to a guy but her weight does! ... very true.
28. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
29. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
30. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
31. If a guy says you're beautiful, that guy likes you.
32. Guys hate girls who overreact.
33. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.
Doesn't this all make sense?
.::FEW MORE POINTS HAS ADDED TO THE LIST .... CHECK THEM::.
34.Guys usually try hard to get the girl who has dumped them, and this makes it harder for them to accept their defeat.
35.Guys are good flatterers when courting but they usually stammer when they talk to a girl they really like
36.Guys hate gays!
37.A guy may instantly know if the girl likes him but can never be sure unless the girl tells him.
38.Guys tend to generalize about girls but once they get to know them, they’ll realize they’re wrong.
39.guys learn from experience not from the romance books that girls read and take as their basis of experience.
.::THIS IS FOR GIRLS::.
40.Guys want to tell you many things but they can’t. And they have one habit to gain courage and spirit to tell you many things and it is drinking! but do not generalise
41.Guys hate it when you talk about your ex-boyfriend.
42.A guy’s friend knows everything about him. Use this to your advantage.
10 Ways to Get a Guy to Ask You Out
So you like this guy. Call it a crush, butterflies in your stomach or love at first sight, bottom line – you like him. Now the question is how do you get HIM to like YOU enough to ask you out? There is no sure shot formula. But do not despair! Here are 10 easy to follow suggestions for you to experiment with and trusty Cupid will do the rest!
1. Be yourself :
No one likes deception. Think about it. If a guy was extremely gentlemanly on the first couple of dates (opened doors for you, pulled the chair out et all) and all of that magically disappeared when the two of you got a little more serious, you would feel cheated right? So don’t do the same thing. Yes, we all tweak our normal selves to impress the other person but there is a fine line between tweaking and being downright fake. So listen to him when he talks about his favorite sport but don’t pretend to be a born fan if you’re not just to get him to like you
2. Extend that to external appearances too :
Don’t dress a certain way because you think that’s what he would like. When I was 15, I had the biggest crush on this guy and I knew for a fact that his ex always had her face plastered with makeup. If he liked her that way, surely he would like me with a little blue eyeshadow? I never found out because the one and only time I experimented with it, my best friend (thankfully) caught me before anyone else could see me and made me swear I would NEVER do that to my
face again. I can’t imagine what would have happened otherwise. Moral of the story: If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up, stay clear of them. Your own look may not be that of a fashion model, but it’s whats best for you!
3. Accentuate your physical attributes :
Fashion trends are going to be the death of us one day. Don’t follow them just because. All you’re going to do is end up killing your confidence because boyfriend blazers look hideous on you thanks to your broad shoulders or something like that.Instead, figure out what suits your body and accentuate your best features.Draw attention to your killer legs, wear colors that bring out your gorgeous eyes, wear a belt to emphasize the curves of your waist… Just remember that learning what looks good on you is a process. You may goof up every now and then but that’s okay. Just be comfortably fabulous and unique and enjoy the process
4. Take the initiative :
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So if you like a guy and you want attention from him, stop waiting and praying and take that first step…no matter how scary! The next time you see him walk by, flash a lovely smile and say hi. You can’t possibly go wrong with that! Confidence is enamouring. So I don’t care how shy you are. Fake the confidence if you must and watch how he reacts
5. Actions speak louder than words :
You took the initiative and it worked! You and your boy crush are now talking to each other. This is when you plant the seed. Glance at him often and if he catches you looking, smile. When the two of you are talking, look right into his eyes, listen to what he says and laugh at his jokes. Twirl your hair. And please make it look subconcious and playful. Brush your shoulder or arm against his every now and then. Actions do speak louder than words. And all this will make him realize that you are interested in him
6. Find out what he likes :
Find out what his likes and dislikes are and try to steer the conversation in that direction. And like I said earlier, don’t pretend to be a fan of something just because you think it’ll make him like you better. At the same time, don’t shoot down his interests by saying something like “I HATE sports.” Seem genuinely interested and listen to what he has to say. And if you really hate something he likes, try to playfully argue with him. That will bring you closer. Remember the keyword: playfully
7. Position yourself :
If the two of you are about to spend a decent amount of time together, just remember to keep changing your position often enough without seeming too fidgety. Face to face interaction usually means maximum eye contact and that will help you connect better. But sticking to his side, especially in a crowded room would mean being able to be closer to him physically. Remember to lean into him and talk softly. It’s all about clever and timely positioning. And like I said, don’t do it too often or you might get asked “Do you wanna use the restroom?” like I did
8. Have fun by yourself too :
If you are with another group of friends, concentrate on them instead of having one eye on him constantly. Don’t spend your entire time watching his every move like a hawk or you’re going to seriously spook him out. Instead, enjoy yourself with your friends. Get them laughing or talking animatedly to you. This will make him wish he was with your crowd, especially with you. And if he happens to walk by, a warm smile and a hi would be perfect
9. Let him know you are available :
So you’ve done everything to let him know that you are interested. Now also find a way to let him know that you are single and very much available. Try and weave it into general banter. That’s what I do. Also, this would be the perfect way to find out whether he’s single or no
10. Discuss the right topics :
You’ve done everything you’ve had to do. The flirting is on in full swing. Now all he has to do is ask you out. Some guys are smarter and will usually ask you out by this point. Others need a few more hints. So what I do is discuss stuff like upcoming concerts, new movies and restaurants that I can’t wait to check out. Sound excited without sounding too desperate and you never know, an invitation may just be a breath away….
Follow these tips and I’m certain you will get asked out in a flash!!!!!
1. Be yourself :
No one likes deception. Think about it. If a guy was extremely gentlemanly on the first couple of dates (opened doors for you, pulled the chair out et all) and all of that magically disappeared when the two of you got a little more serious, you would feel cheated right? So don’t do the same thing. Yes, we all tweak our normal selves to impress the other person but there is a fine line between tweaking and being downright fake. So listen to him when he talks about his favorite sport but don’t pretend to be a born fan if you’re not just to get him to like you
2. Extend that to external appearances too :
Don’t dress a certain way because you think that’s what he would like. When I was 15, I had the biggest crush on this guy and I knew for a fact that his ex always had her face plastered with makeup. If he liked her that way, surely he would like me with a little blue eyeshadow? I never found out because the one and only time I experimented with it, my best friend (thankfully) caught me before anyone else could see me and made me swear I would NEVER do that to my
face again. I can’t imagine what would have happened otherwise. Moral of the story: If you are uncomfortable with very short skirts, high heels and dramatic make-up, stay clear of them. Your own look may not be that of a fashion model, but it’s whats best for you!
3. Accentuate your physical attributes :
Fashion trends are going to be the death of us one day. Don’t follow them just because. All you’re going to do is end up killing your confidence because boyfriend blazers look hideous on you thanks to your broad shoulders or something like that.Instead, figure out what suits your body and accentuate your best features.Draw attention to your killer legs, wear colors that bring out your gorgeous eyes, wear a belt to emphasize the curves of your waist… Just remember that learning what looks good on you is a process. You may goof up every now and then but that’s okay. Just be comfortably fabulous and unique and enjoy the process
4. Take the initiative :
Shrinking coy violets rarely get noticed. So if you like a guy and you want attention from him, stop waiting and praying and take that first step…no matter how scary! The next time you see him walk by, flash a lovely smile and say hi. You can’t possibly go wrong with that! Confidence is enamouring. So I don’t care how shy you are. Fake the confidence if you must and watch how he reacts
5. Actions speak louder than words :
You took the initiative and it worked! You and your boy crush are now talking to each other. This is when you plant the seed. Glance at him often and if he catches you looking, smile. When the two of you are talking, look right into his eyes, listen to what he says and laugh at his jokes. Twirl your hair. And please make it look subconcious and playful. Brush your shoulder or arm against his every now and then. Actions do speak louder than words. And all this will make him realize that you are interested in him
6. Find out what he likes :
Find out what his likes and dislikes are and try to steer the conversation in that direction. And like I said earlier, don’t pretend to be a fan of something just because you think it’ll make him like you better. At the same time, don’t shoot down his interests by saying something like “I HATE sports.” Seem genuinely interested and listen to what he has to say. And if you really hate something he likes, try to playfully argue with him. That will bring you closer. Remember the keyword: playfully
7. Position yourself :
If the two of you are about to spend a decent amount of time together, just remember to keep changing your position often enough without seeming too fidgety. Face to face interaction usually means maximum eye contact and that will help you connect better. But sticking to his side, especially in a crowded room would mean being able to be closer to him physically. Remember to lean into him and talk softly. It’s all about clever and timely positioning. And like I said, don’t do it too often or you might get asked “Do you wanna use the restroom?” like I did
8. Have fun by yourself too :
If you are with another group of friends, concentrate on them instead of having one eye on him constantly. Don’t spend your entire time watching his every move like a hawk or you’re going to seriously spook him out. Instead, enjoy yourself with your friends. Get them laughing or talking animatedly to you. This will make him wish he was with your crowd, especially with you. And if he happens to walk by, a warm smile and a hi would be perfect
9. Let him know you are available :
So you’ve done everything to let him know that you are interested. Now also find a way to let him know that you are single and very much available. Try and weave it into general banter. That’s what I do. Also, this would be the perfect way to find out whether he’s single or no
10. Discuss the right topics :
You’ve done everything you’ve had to do. The flirting is on in full swing. Now all he has to do is ask you out. Some guys are smarter and will usually ask you out by this point. Others need a few more hints. So what I do is discuss stuff like upcoming concerts, new movies and restaurants that I can’t wait to check out. Sound excited without sounding too desperate and you never know, an invitation may just be a breath away….
Follow these tips and I’m certain you will get asked out in a flash!!!!!
10 Things Modern Men Want in A Woman Ever wondered what modern men want in women
Well it varies upon each person but there are certain things which most men look for in the woman they are dating or even planning to marry with. These are the common things which will also keep a relationship healthy and maintain the chemistry over the years. So let us see what are the basic that modern men want in a woman.
1. She has a life of her own: This is the first thing that a modern man would want to have in his woman. Gone are the days when a couple were seen as a single entity. A man would love his woman to have her own social life beyond him. Closing a couple inside a world away from social life will ruin it in the long run. Now this does not mean that a couple need to be overly social. The social level of a couple varies from one couple to another but each partner must have a social life.
2. Sense of Humor: Ladies prefer a guy who can make them laugh everyday. Guys are no different. They also want a woman who laughs along and keeps the relationship light and alive.
3. Knows what she wants: Men like their women confident and goal oriented. It gives them a kick to know that their woman is clear in her head and knows exactly what she is doing and how. Confidence definitely scores.
4. Independent: Men were the caretakers as far as our ancestors were concerned. But times have changed. With both the genders being equally successful and independent, men desire their women to be able to take care of themselves and not be the damsel in distress all the time.
5. Sharing Interests: Men do not want you to like everything that they do. If you don’t like his golf club, its fine with him, so long as you are just open to sharing his experiences and listen to him. That’s all they want, a healthy sharing of interests.
6. Tell me straight: All men want their women to be straight and upfront about what bothers them and not play around with words. It only confuses them. Straight talk is much appreciated. And the worst that a woman can do is to listen blindly to others and not clarify things with the man before reaching a conclusion!
7. She initiates sex: The days when $ex initiation was taken to be the man’s domain are quite far behind now. Men appreciate their women to come up first and start it all, infact it is a turn on for most men.
8. Caring: No matter how modern or retro a man is , a caring woman is always desirable. Men want to be mothered for and not nagged, so caring is definitely a plus.
9. Space giving: They love you and do not feel it is important to be told a thousand times a day over calls and mails. Men would look for a woman who does not turn on the relationship pressure on a constant basis but rather understand and give them space to be. I precise on this one. Saying lovely words and expressing love during the day and very often is very good but if you keep saying it every 30 minutes over 24 hours, then you are either mad or not busy enough! Expressing love 5 to 6 times a day is however normal.
10. Spontaneity: This is much under- rated, but a highly desirable trait. It is usually propagated that women love surprises, but men too, relish spontaneity and on the spur moments and would love to have a spontaneous woman.
1. She has a life of her own: This is the first thing that a modern man would want to have in his woman. Gone are the days when a couple were seen as a single entity. A man would love his woman to have her own social life beyond him. Closing a couple inside a world away from social life will ruin it in the long run. Now this does not mean that a couple need to be overly social. The social level of a couple varies from one couple to another but each partner must have a social life.
2. Sense of Humor: Ladies prefer a guy who can make them laugh everyday. Guys are no different. They also want a woman who laughs along and keeps the relationship light and alive.
3. Knows what she wants: Men like their women confident and goal oriented. It gives them a kick to know that their woman is clear in her head and knows exactly what she is doing and how. Confidence definitely scores.
4. Independent: Men were the caretakers as far as our ancestors were concerned. But times have changed. With both the genders being equally successful and independent, men desire their women to be able to take care of themselves and not be the damsel in distress all the time.
5. Sharing Interests: Men do not want you to like everything that they do. If you don’t like his golf club, its fine with him, so long as you are just open to sharing his experiences and listen to him. That’s all they want, a healthy sharing of interests.
6. Tell me straight: All men want their women to be straight and upfront about what bothers them and not play around with words. It only confuses them. Straight talk is much appreciated. And the worst that a woman can do is to listen blindly to others and not clarify things with the man before reaching a conclusion!
7. She initiates sex: The days when $ex initiation was taken to be the man’s domain are quite far behind now. Men appreciate their women to come up first and start it all, infact it is a turn on for most men.
8. Caring: No matter how modern or retro a man is , a caring woman is always desirable. Men want to be mothered for and not nagged, so caring is definitely a plus.
9. Space giving: They love you and do not feel it is important to be told a thousand times a day over calls and mails. Men would look for a woman who does not turn on the relationship pressure on a constant basis but rather understand and give them space to be. I precise on this one. Saying lovely words and expressing love during the day and very often is very good but if you keep saying it every 30 minutes over 24 hours, then you are either mad or not busy enough! Expressing love 5 to 6 times a day is however normal.
10. Spontaneity: This is much under- rated, but a highly desirable trait. It is usually propagated that women love surprises, but men too, relish spontaneity and on the spur moments and would love to have a spontaneous woman.
9 Deadly Words Used by a Women
1) Fine
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2) Five Minutes
If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3) Nothing
This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4) Go Ahead
This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
5) Loud Sigh
This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6) That’s Okay
This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7) Thanks
A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’).
8 ) Whatever
Is a woman’s way of saying F– YOU!
9) Don’t worry about it, I got it
Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.
This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.
2) Five Minutes
If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.
3) Nothing
This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.
4) Go Ahead
This is a dare, not permission. Don’t Do It!
5) Loud Sigh
This is actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men. A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to # 3 for the meaning of nothing.)
6) That’s Okay
This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That’s okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.
7) Thanks
A woman is thanking you, do not question, or faint. Just say you’re welcome. (I want to add in a clause here – This is true, unless she says ‘Thanks a lot’ – that is PURE sarcasm and she is not thanking you at all. DO NOT say ‘you’re welcome’ . that will bring on a ‘whatever’).
8 ) Whatever
Is a woman’s way of saying F– YOU!
9) Don’t worry about it, I got it
Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking ‘What’s wrong?’ For the woman’s response refer to #3.
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